“To be everywhere is to be nowhere.”
I’m having a problem focusing these days.
This comes as no surprise to my fellow Restless Writers, to whom I have been promising a fresh new blog post since the holidays.
The symptoms of my lack of focus are not limited to delayed blog posts. I’m also finding that I can’t read a whole book. I went from neglecting a new novel, to not being able to finish a short story, to skipping whole paragraphs in Globe & Mail articles. Even my Twitter feed has started to feel like too much pressure.
And it’s not just reading. I have a to-do list as long as a Canadian winter, enough Post-It Note reminders to wallpaper my guest bathroom, and so many evening appointments and meetings that I am thisclose to forgetting what the inside of my fridge looks like. The idea of replacing the light bulb in my kitchen seems overwhelming but I know I have to do it soon because it’s hard to make
G&Ts coffee in the dark. (Hard, but not impossible.)
Many of you know that my life has taken some turns over the past six months. I’m not surprised that all these changes have affected my day-to-day life in some way, but I didn’t expect that I would turn into a slack-jawed scatterbrain. I can’t seem to finish anything I start, and hunkering down to write seems impossible.
So what to do about it?
In my search for ways to tame my monkey-brain, I turned—of course—to other writers. Who better to advise on how to focus, since so many writers struggle with the fidgets and a perverse inability to just sit down and get ‘er done already.
Here are some of the best tips I’ve culled from the Interwebs about focusing on your writing. I’ve re-jigged them so they will help me focus on my to-do list and hopefully help me read (and eventually write) that book.
Block out time, not tasks: Getting to a word count goal can seem daunting, but telling yourself that you’ll write for an hour is manageable. Likewise, if I give myself an hour in which I can tackle, say, roaming around Home Depot, it might be easier than telling myself I have to choose the perfect light fixture today.
Be mindful of distractions: You can’t avoid distractions, whether you’re writing or trying to put together an IKEA shelf. The phone will ring, emails will keep coming in, and Rob Ford will inevitably do something stupid and burn up your feeds. Identify what distracts you the most. Is it Twitter? Indulge for five minutes, but then shut it down. Text messages? Put your phone in another room. Coffee craving? Keep a carafe full of hot tasty brew on your desk so you’re not forced to hit a local Starbucks.
Say “no”: This one’s hard. Writers are very protective of their time, and often have to employ drastic measures to make sure the world doesn’t keep them from their keyboard. These days, I am trying to fill my life with people and events, so saying “no” to an invitation gives me a bit of anxiety. I have to remember that saying “no” when I feel overwhelmed will help me save my energy for when I am ready to enjoy an activity or someone’s company. (Yes, this includes dates.)
Have an accountability partner: Writers share word counts and pages all the time. Maybe I’m doing the same thing by writing about my challenges and efforts to succeed right here. I may have to call on my sisters and friends to check in and make sure I’m chipping away at life.
Track the resistance: What is it about finding the perfect light fixture that’s so goddamned difficult? The parking lot? The bone-deep chill of winter? The crush of people? Whatever it is, I need to pay attention to where the barrier is, so I can figure out a way to get around it. It’s like with writer’s block—I need to figure out what’s keeping me from moving forward.
Treat yourself: Let’s say I do manage to find that perfect light fixture when I go to Home Depot on my lunch break. Just as when I finish a writing task (like finishing this blog post–yay!), checking that off my to-do list deserves a minor celebration, whether it’s a fancy coffee or a mini-iTunes shopping spree.
Do a little every day: I can’t do everything in one day—which pisses me off a bit—so I have to give my controlling self a break. I need to celebrate the little wins, keep checking things off my to-do list, and remember that things will get easier.
What’s the best writing advice you’ve heard that you can also apply to your life?
3 responses to “Getting to done: Applying writing advice to my life”
Thank you for posting this! It’s SO what I needed. My challenge is also staying committed and motivated, specifically when I’m feeling like giving up and doing the ‘who do I think I am thinking I can be a writer’ self-talk. I recently read part of a book about finding your passions and it made me realize how much of a commitment-phobe I am. The author suggested to commit to one thing for 30 days (which is a great and scary suggestion!). I have also made a personal commitment to take the time to watch how I’m feeling when I feel like this, what comes up for me? Staying mindful and just watching my emotions go by, then write about it is helping me figure out where my roadblocks are.
Another cool trick I learned from a good friend of mine is to just stay curious. Last week I really wanted to finish an article by Friday, it wasn’t critical but I wanted to do it. So all week I just said to myself “I’m curious if I can get this done by Friday”. I ended up doing it (which was great!) but It took SO much pressure off and it really re-phrased the challenge for me.
I love the “I’m curious” idea! I’m going to use that a couple times this week. Thanks for the tip!
I’m a commitment-phobe too, so I will have to see if the 30-day test will work for me, or just make me crazy.
Nice to see you blogging again!
I love your tips. Good to remember them everyday.
As for me, I’m all about a word count. I set it and hit every day. It breaks it up for me.