When the going gets rough, the rough get writing

Back for the first blog post of 2013 and sadly, it’s not a happy one. I lost my sweet mom two days after Christmas. She’d experienced some health issues throughout November and rebounded for a time in December but unfortunately it was temporary.

My mom, me in the plaid and my big sister.

My mom, me in the plaid and my big sister.

I’m not in a place where I have any kind of perspective or insights to share about this whole experience but I did volunteer to write this blog post because in the days since my mom’s death I have found that writing has become a lifeline. In the first few days after she died, I couldn’t sleep. I’d get up in the wee hours of the morning and was drawn to my laptop. I began writing my eulogy for her service, madly trying to commit every detail I’d miss and every memory I’d cherish to the page. I talked with my sister who said she was struggling to write something but for me it was the only thing that offered some sort of solace.

I did a little bit of investigating and turns out there really is something to this idea of writing through the grief of losing someone you love. Author Louise Desalvo explores writing as a way to heal the emotional and physical wounds of life in her book Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives. There are grief writing workshops, like this one, offered by hospices and community support groups. Grief even has its own genre, the literature of loss as explored recently by the New York Times.

So I must be on to something.

One final note—I hope none of our readers ever find themselves in a similar situation with losing a loved one but if you do, may you have the good fortune to experience the exceptional support and love I’ve received from my fellow restless writers in the last few weeks. Their emails, hugs and thoughtful gifts have all helped to hold me up and I am eternally grateful to them. xo


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5 responses to “When the going gets rough, the rough get writing

  1. Trish Loye Elliott

    So sorry to hear of your loss. It’s brave of you to write about it.

  2. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. I’m glad you’re finding some comfort and healing through writing. Wishing you peace….

  3. (_(_( alter

    It is good to know you gained an outlet for healing from the craft of writing. I was touched by your honesty and willingness to share. Your family portrait is so precious and I am sure it reminds a lot of us how the memories of our youth are rooted so deeply… for good or bad… and that a mother’s love is always with us, even before we know it is there.

    Here’s to writing when restless, and more restless writing to come. May it be the light that breaks the dawn when you need it the most.

  4. A few months after losing my mom I started to blog everyday, wrote alot about her and the family, community and started to write for my own collection and stockpile of writing…all inspired by her. Sending you comforting thoughts as you go through this time from someone who understands.

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