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Getting Tactile: my spine poem

At a workshop Maria and I took a few months ago, we were challenged / encouraged / prompted to consider creating a “spine poem” as a possible, think-outside-the-box way to write poetry. We have since challenged each other to create our own.

You’ll find Maria’s at the end of the post she wrote about the workshop.

Beckie shared hers last month.

My turn.

I rummaged around my house, pulling titles from from my bedside table, the basement bookshelf, the living room end table. Books I haven’t looked at for a loooong time.

I played with the order, added titles, took some out, put them back in. Set up the photo. Changed the set up. Changed it again. Took stuff out of the background. Re-positioned.

It was tactile, visceral, energizing, playful creativity.

I highly recommend it.

Women who run with the wolves
Eat mangoes naked
Color me HAPPY

Untamed, big magic
Daring greatly

A course in
MIRACLES

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Building creative readiness – Part 2: Your creative mindset

In my last post, I talked about the concept of creative readiness and what that means in terms of your physical environment: your writing space, your writing tools and technology, and the things you need around you to be your best creative self.

But your physical environment is only one part of the picture. Your mindset plays a huge role when it comes to being focused, productive, and creative.

For many writers, feeling inspired and “in the mood” to write is the challenge. But as Jack London famously said, “You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.”

(Actually, he wrote, “Don’t loaf and invite inspiration; light out after it with a club, and if you don’t get it you will nonetheless get something that looks remarkably like it,” which I think is much more poetic.)

This echoes that quote from Ivan Coyote in my previous post, about being “actively engaged in the creative practice.” For them, lighting out after inspiration and creativity involves self-discipline, walks, and hot showers.

As a writer with a day job, I don’t have the luxury of waiting around for my muse to make an appearance. I need her to show up in those 30-minute increments I have cleared out of my day to write. Like, at the snap of my fingers.

Basically, I have to be my own muse, or write without one.

Real picture of me and my Muse collaborating on a story.

Creative readiness, when it comes to mindset, looks like this:

  • maintaining a full creative well that you can draw from;
  • being resilient and able to overcome creative challenges like writer’s block or burnout; and
  • having the skills to step into creative mode when it’s time to write.

I asked the other Restless Writers how they refill their creative wells.

For Beckie, connection nourishes creativity. She builds creative energy by “spending time with other creatives, like my Restless Writers.” In addition to our meetings and retreats, Beckie says that when she needs some help getting creative, she looks up. “The night sky is an inspiration.”

Andrea too finds that connecting with other artists and writers helps. Besides the inspiration she gets from the Restless Writers, she engages with creative works to get her ideas going. She says she will “read a great book. Go to the theatre to see a play or musical. Watch a great actor in a movie.” Andrea has a performance background (plus she’s an amazing trainer and facilitator), so it’s no surprise that theatre, singing, and dance parties with her daughters keep her feeling her creative best.

“Reading a lot of fiction is great,” echoed Sharon. “I get little pieces of inspiration from that—whether it’s from a piece of dialogue or an interesting story choice.”

For me, connecting with the Restless Writers (and other writers and creatives) and pushing myself out of the inertia of routine with challenges makes me feel pumped about writing. Beyond writing, I enjoy making digital art and taking photos of things that strike me as visually interesting. When I’m doing something like building out graphics for social media, I get to engage a different part of my creative brain. There are usually words involved, so the interplay of language and graphic arts intrigues me as well.

Whether or not you believe writer’s block is a thing, the struggle to write well—or even to get started—is something that hits us all at some point. My struggle is usually with writer’s jam. That’s when I have so many projects on the go, I pinball between priorities and can’t make meaningful progress on any of them, so I avoid my writing altogether. It’s brutal. I know focus and monotasking is the way to go, and that’s something I have been working on recently with pomodoros, co-writing sprints, and allowing myself to go as slowly as possible without actually stopping.

Andrea’s approach to tackling writer’s block starts with mindfulness. “I start by just breathing in and releasing tension, and then I free write—what I see/hear/smell, what’s in my head, what’s in my heart, with no judgment. Just words on a page. And I wait for my muse to return. She doesn’t always, and I’m left with captured random thoughts. When she does return, I welcome her in and try to open to the gifts she is offering.”

Sharon addresses writer’s block by switching things up. “In the last few months, I’ve been trying something new where I dictate a first draft of a chapter into my computer or phone. I try to go through it in one go, even if I am tripping over my words. The dialogue is choppy and a lot of the words are misspelled but it helps me get the structure of the chapter down. It takes the pressure off of staring at a blank page.” (I’m definitely going to try this, Sharon!)

Burnout can also affect creative readiness. Beckie says she experiences burnout “usually after completing a large project. Or even in the months prior to completion. It can feel like such a grind to get to the end, while, in reality, there is no end.” She focuses on other creative projects to help with recovery—things like painting, gardening, reading, or astrophotography.

Andrea says she can get “mind burnout,” where she’s overwhelmed and can’t do any kind of work, including writing. When this happens, she says she tries “to take time to ‘not do’ and just be. It could be days, weeks, or months, but my need to create always returns.”

I’ve had this experience too. I can be “away” from my writing for long stretches, but something—a Restless Writers meeting, a prompt, a new idea, a fresh take on an old story, or just the urge to bring something to life on paper—brings me back.

I wish I had a cheat code that I could apply to instantly switch to creative mode when I sit down to write. But I know there is no hack. It comes down to cultivating a regular creative habit, nurturing your creative self, and filling your creative well so you can step into writing mode as easily as possible.

In many ways, writing sets up a self-sustaining feedback loop. The act of writing itself is what kickstarts creativity and keeps the momentum going.

Once you start writing, you are creating the mindset and conditions to…keep writing.

As Beckie told me, “For me, creative readiness generally happens after I start a project and not before.”

Luckily, the Restless Writers support each other in sticking to our writing projects and nurturing our creative abilities. “They cheer me on,” said Andrea. “They offer smaller goals to help motivate me; remind me that my writing matters to them. I am grateful for them and their patience and acceptance.”

Thanks to my restless crew for sharing their thoughts on creative readiness and mindset. It’s been interesting to see how each of us approach our work and keep moving forward.

We’d love to hear from our readers too! What does your creative mindset look like? How do you stay resilient in the face of writer’s block and burnout? What habits help you “light out after inspiration”?

Maria

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Today’s Poetic Prompt

This post is inspired by Maria. She has been writing up a storm these days and keeping us on our toes. A woman on a productivity mission! Maria prompted us back in May with her book spine poem, and I thought I’d give it a whirl.

The Island of the Day Before

Quiet, simple sabotage.

The gifts of imperfection:

illusions, nostalgia, pandemonium.

What’s left of me?

The dreamer.

Andrea, Sharon, I believe it’s your turn.

BJas

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Building creative readiness – Part 1: Your physical environment

According to celebrated author and performer Ivan Coyote, “You have to be actively engaged in the creative practice for the creativity to hit you” (Globe & Mail, August 7, 2023). They credit self-disciple, nature walks, and hot showers to their success. Coyote strongly believes that you have to put in the work to be prepared to be creative. That way, you’re ready when inspiration hits.

I think of this as creative readiness – an intentional way of removing any friction between you and your writing practice. It’s an approach that clears out the excuses and signals to your creative muscles that it’s time to write.

Creative readiness has two dimensions: your physical writing environment and your creative mindset. Being prepared to be creative means shoring up both of these dimensions. In practice, creative readiness is a series of individualized actions or processes that mark the transition into writing mode, and a way of preparing yourself mentally to make that transition.

I wondered what other writers thought about creative readiness, so I asked my fellow Restless Writers to weigh in. They had a lot to say – so much in fact, that I’m splitting this blog post into two parts.

In this first part, let’s dig into how the Restless Writers set up their physical environments to work on their creative tasks.

Space to let the words flow

A writer needs space. A place to build worlds, invent characters, concoct plots, converse with their muse, and do battle with their inner critic. Virginia Woolf famously said that women writers needed “a room of one’s own” (literal and metaphorical) in which to write. Ray Bradbury wrote his first novel on a typewriter he rented for ten cents an hour in the basement of UCLA’s Lawrence Clark Powell Library. Edith Wharton wrote from her bed.

I asked AI to create an image of the perfect writer’s office. Here’s the result:

I mean… That looks pretty perfect to me. (The Edison lights and cosy blanket? Love those details!)

In reality, there is no universal “perfect” writing space – it is personal to each writer.

Beckie, a Restless Writer with an enviable backyard, has a dedicated writing shed – but it’s weather-dependent. “Ideally, I write in my writing shed. This works best because there are no distractions, except weather at times when it can get too hot or too chilly. I dream of a mini woodstove in there, with space for a tea pot.” When the shed isn’t an option, she makes do with her dining room table. Beckie is currently editing a memoir.

Cute shed, Beckie!

Andrea has a self-described “backyard oasis” at her home, complete with multiple writing spots and a pool if she needs an active break. Her space is weather-dependent as well. If she’s forced inside, she opts for the living room couch. Wherever she is, she needs a bit of nature. “I look for a spot that is comfortable and full of light; under trees, or where I can see them.”

Staying mobile means Andrea is ready to write when inspiration hits. Sharon, who’s working on a mystery/thriller novel, likes to mix up her writing spots too. “I usually write sitting up in bed against the headboard with my laptop on my lap (obviously) and my notes spread out around me,” she says. “If I’m at the library, I go for the comfiest chair I can find.” Sharon finds sitting at a desk to be too formal.

Like Beckie, I have a writing space all to myself, but it’s also my home office. I have a work-from-home day job, so my 9-to-5 is the same space as my 5-to-9. On the plus side, a dedicated office means I don’t have to fight for space or negotiate with family members for a little quiet time. There’s room enough for my books, writing supplies, files, and two desks. I can close the door and focus on my work whenever I want.

My creative readiness struggle is transitioning from work-Maria to creative-Maria without physically leaving my office. I’ve started to venture out of my formal office and – like Beckie – set up on the dining room table so I can step purposefully into the writing zone.

Technology, talismans, and snacks

The physical writing space includes all the things we need around us to write. That can look different for everyone, but the basic categories are writing implements/technology, writing supports, sustenance, and ambiance.

Sharon gets back to basics when she writes. “I’ve usually got a glass of water beside me on the nightstand and a little bowl of some nibblies – M&Ms, almonds, chips, they all work. I’ve always got the outline for my novel nearby to remind me where I’m headed.”

Andrea’s setup is also pared down: she just needs a notebook and a pen with blue ink, with “candles and calm.”

Beckie is the only RW who mentioned music. She likes to write with “a chill playlist – something ambient.”

As for me, I need my laptop or lined notepaper and a good pen (I write longhand when I’m brainstorming or outlining); my hard-copy story notes and outline; coffee with plenty of milk; and quiet. Those are the absolute must-haves for me to write.

I do appreciate some technological supports. I prefer to keep my phone out of my line of sight, but I do use the timer for writing sprints. Music can get my creativity going, so I sometimes have a classical playlist or an instrumental soundtrack playing. But music with lyrics is too distracting for me. I am experimenting with a talisman – I’m not a woo-woo person but I do believe in the power of rituals. I found a hunk of clear glass on one of my waterfront walks, and I’m placing it near my laptop as a reminder to focus my writing energy.

Making a “creatively ready” writing space

Here’s what I’ve learned about preparing one’s physical space to support a regular writing practice:

  • Identify needs versus wants. While having the perfect physical writing space is every writer’s dream, it won’t be the reality 100% of the time. When it comes down to it, all that any writer needs is a comfortable place to write and the materials you need to be productive and creative. Everything else is gravy. (Like those Edison lights or the soundtrack to Interstellar.)
  • Know yourself. Some writers do their best work at a bustling coffee shop, while others need quiet and privacy to get going. Note where you’ve been productive in the past and do your best to replicate those conditions.
  • Have options. Less-than-ideal conditions can give you a great excuse to skip out of your writing time – like if a heat wave is keeping you from writing in your she-shed, you’re out of M&Ms, or someone stole your favourite seat at Starbuck’s. Have a plan B, even if it’s not ideal.
  • Don’t rely on perfect conditions to write. Waiting for conditions to be just so or spending too much time creating an idyllic space can lead to not doing the work. If there’s anything you should strive for, it’s the ability to build a regular writing habit. I think Sharon said it perfectly: “Don’t overthink creative readiness too much. Have confidence in your ability to be creative at any given time. Most of the time I am just diving blindly into creative projects, knowing that I’ll get where I want to go at some point because I have shown myself many times before that I can.”

Bottom line, creative readiness is about balancing the conditions that help you write at your best with the very minimum you need to put the work in, plus the creative confidence to push on.

In the next part of this post, we’ll talk about the mental and psychological side of creative readiness, and how the Restless Writers get into the writing mindset.

For fun, I asked AI to adjust that image of the perfect writer’s office to include a timed device that would keep a person locked in their chair so they don’t get distracted. The image looks pretty unhinged, but someone should invent this.

Take my money!

Until next time,

Maria

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Wine, Space and a Cat Joke

My take on our poetry workshop

Maria wonderfully captured the poetry workshop we attended recently through the Burlington Public Library: Lynda Monk’s welcoming and positive approach; prompts that inspired our writing; our collective “affirmative noises” throughout the session.

Like Maria, I had also hesitated attending, but not for the same reasons. I don’t have a “prejudice against poetry”. I dabble from time to time and submitted my Your House is Not My House poem as pages for a Restless Writers meeting not that long ago. I also don’t hate journalling. While I may not journal every day, I am an “out loud” thinker, and when no one wants to listen, my journal pages are always willing.

I hesitated to participate because my brain prefers the ordinary. On the evening in questions, she said, “You’ve worked a long day. You’re tired. Wouldn’t you rather settle in to a night of watching Derry Girls episodes? Plus, you’ll have to do the dishes if Maria is coming over.”

But Maria had texted and offered to bring wine. So, what was I going to do? Say no? That’s funny. And I’m glad she did – come over, I mean. Not just bring the wine. (That said, Riesling on a Tuesday evening is a nice treat.)

For me, the gift of Lynda’s workshop was allowing in quiet and connection. It was a needed opportunity to tell my work and home brains to take 60, go commiserate about me over their own glasses of wine, and let me enjoy mine.

Lynda talked about how visceral poetry is. That it cuts to the essence, reveals the unspoken and digs into the senses. She shared this quote by Allen Ginsberg, “Poetry slows me down and brings me back to myself.” For me, on that Tuesday, I didn’t realize how fast I’d been moving until I followed Lynda’s instruction to close my eyes, listen to her recite Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese poem and write down any words or lines that stood out to us. That’s when I felt my breath deepen, and my body settle into her voice as I became drawn in by the verse.

And in that open space, she invited us to paint our own pictures through the prompts she provided. “I dwell in the possibility of…” “Silence is like…” or to fill in the blanks, using Jane Kenyon’s Otherwise poem as a template. Some participants chose to share what had sprung up in their writing. Usually, I’m one of them, but on this night, I was with the others who chose to simply listen and absorb.

To me, poetry is about presence and play. Experiencing it and then toying with the words, the shapes, the sounds, the spaces. You can choose the structure of a haiku or dance freely with your own use of the page, colour, fonts.

Toward the end, Lynda summarized our experience in the “5 Things to Practice to Free Your Inner Poet”:

  1. Breathing
  2. Stillness
  3. Listening
  4. Receiving
  5. Giving

These were the reminders I forgot I needed. Through this workshop, I expanded and found new creative energy. Maria opened up her imagination.

I encourage you to give yourself the gift of a writing workshop. Many are free or inexpensive and offered by local libraries or authors looking to inspire other writers. Maybe pick one that isn’t in your usual wheelhouse. You can certainly take one alone, or better yet, invite a fellow writer who never comes empty handed.

When it was done, Maria and I shared what had resonated with us from the workshop. We also shared some of our own verses inspired by the prompts. Maria, who is skilled at bringing levity to the heavy, wrote a a melancholy piece about a solitary meal, mixed with a little gratitude for her cat.

“The cat and I ate dinner,” she recited stone faced. “Not the same dinner. We both had tuna.”

I burst out laughing at her unexpected ending. Maybe you had to be there, but it was hilarious and one of the highlights of the evening! After finding a tissue to wipe my tears, and saying goodbye to Maria, I pondered what may be my next poem: I dwell in the possibility of wine with a friend.

Cheers!

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Live your questions

I get frustrated when I want something but can’t see the way toward it. I want to write and have something to share with my Restless Writers at each meeting, but lately I’ve been on repeat saying, “I don’t know what I’m writing. I don’t even know what I feel compelled to write.”

They listen and are more patient with me than I am because that’s not one of my best-known qualities.

Maybe that’s why I have this Rainer Maria Rilke quote on my bedroom wall:

Easy for you to say, Rainer.

But, at the last RW meeting, I committed to have a writing date with myself. To create purposeful time to check in and see what might happen. That was yesterday. I found a few hours. Stopped. Meditated. Brainstormed. Scribbled down some letters from the alphabet. Hoping beyond hope my muse would appear and transform the letters into prose.

She didn’t. They didn’t. All I got were random, disconnected words, as if I was playing Scrabble. It sucked.

I abandoned the effort. I went to play the piano and sing a little. Even that didn’t satisfy, so I started watching David Letterman’s My Next Guest Needs No Introduction. The interview with Tiffany Haddish. I didn’t even know who she was, and I didn’t finish the episode.

Later, I went to bed with no progress.

Today, however, I awoke to a rare April 20-degree morning of warming sunshine. With a cup of tea in hand, I cozied up under the trees and with the sparrows in my backyard paradise. With no thought to writing, I randomly opened an old blog I kept about nine years ago and pulled up a post called “Being in Love with Not Knowing. Here’s a snippet:

“..the journey is to decide how we’ll walk our path – in terror of the unknowing, allowing it to paralyze us to stay in one spot, or to become in love with it and embrace the unknowing for all its possibility. The beauty of reaching “no idea” – having absolutely no idea – means you are now open to any idea…Sometimes you need to go through the “I have no idea” stage because the answer cannot yet be given. You have to take one more step and then another one. Let go and trust the path will soon become clear again. Be committed to taking one more step, and with that, become free and open to new possibility.”

Looks like I was channeling my inner Rilke. I read a few more old posts, which led me to read a few others’ posts about writing.

And then it happened.

I wrote!

A new poem released from within. My heart sang as my fingers typed for the first time in months. Look at that. I have something to share with the Restless Writers at our next meeting.

And I’ve published a new blog post!

I had let go and lived my questions. I guess Rilke and my former self were right. Beautiful things can happen when you sit with your not knowing. Maybe not right away, but they do. Release. Presence. Observation. Possibility.

Yes Andrea. Patience 🙄

What do you do when you have no idea what to write? Do share.

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Do something scary

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I have jumped in something new. Something exciting. Something scary. And I LOVE it.

It’s scary because it’s a re-entry into a world I have been away from for the past nine-years. It’s also scary because I’m allowing myself to be exposed and vulnerable with a group of people and a director I don’t know, as we explore the art of solo theatre together.

This is exactly what I’ve needed. I’ve been writing my friggin’ play for years now – while balancing kids and a full-time job (you know the drill). I’ve been making progress, but for a while, it’s been feeling like the show has been missing a certain je ne sais quoi (and/or I’ve been hesitating putting it out there for fear of judgment).

It got to the point where my fellow Restless Writers said, “Um, Andrea, what is going on with your play. Are you going to workshop it any time soon or something?” Followed up by my husband a few days later saying “Yeah, what is happening with your play?”

So, with a good smack on the butt from my accountability team, I knew I would have to shake things up if I was going to gain any momentum.

Well, momentum I am gaining, my friends. I am working with a master in one-person theatre – Tracey Erin Smith. She is the Artistic Director of Soulo Theatre, the creator of hit shows, and the writer and performer of many of her own solo shows. She’s brilliant, insightful and visionary, and she’s taking no prisoners!

If I wanted something to rock my world, this is it, on so many levels. She’s guiding our group of seven to each create our own 10-minute autobiographical show. It’s writing, acting, playing, soul-searching, self discovery, with what feels like a bit of therapy tied in altogether. And it’s not for the faint of heart. If you’re not all in, don’t bother.

But that’s what makes it magical. We’re a group of committed individuals who want to go on a totally new journey, doing something we’ve never done before, and see where it can lead us and how it will change us. This is why I LOVE theatre. It’s always a stretch. It’s always uncomfortable. It always changes me a little bit.

I had been stuck in my writing because I wasn’t stretching. I was comfortable and staying safe. And we all know good writing – and good theatre – doesn’t work if it’s safe. That’s our job as artists. To push boundaries…but we can’t push them if we’re not pushing ourselves.

So far, over the past four weeks, I’ve been nauseous, shaky and exhilarated. I feel alive and present in a new way, and it’s making me a better writer and performer FOR SURE!

So, your turn. Stop for a second and think. Are you a little stuck or maybe a bit too cozy in your routine or your writing? Are you pushing yourself creatively? Have you done anything recently in your own life to stretch yourself? Is there anywhere that you feel “all in?”

Find something that scares you and go for it. Jump in. Your readers will thank you.

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Your writers’ retreat guide

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For weeks, I had been counting down the days and hours to my trip down the QEW in my black Yaris, to Niagara-on-the-Lake, mounting over Lake Ontario on the Skyway bridge thankful the winds weren’t threatening and the bridge was open. I passed the usual industrial parks on my right and the Stoney Creek Furniture warehouse from where I dream to one day afford a couch. Eventually, the stores changed and I saw Magnotta Winery and signs for Niagara wine tours. I turned onto highway 55, past Trius Winery, Pillitteri Estates, Stratus Vineyard. Oh yes. I was close and I knew a glass RELAX Riesling awaited me. I envisioned the blue bottle catching the sun from the window and my shoulders relaxed. I looked at my computer bag on the passenger seat. The first printed shitty first draft of my play slept there. She’d been beckoning me to get out and run amok with her – soon, my sweet. Very soon. And then I pictured the two smart, fun women and cheerleaders I was about to spend my long weekend with, who I’m sure already had a glass in their hands. I grinned. Life was as it should be. I was ready to let go of the usual daily stuff and dive into another writing retreat. We’ve got a number under our belt now and the system is honed. I knew a great, productive weekend awaited.

So let me give you a guide to a great retreat and share some key principles we live by:

  1. Start with good snacks, food and drink. This one has never been a problem for the Restless Writers. We usually have a signature cocktail each retreat, WAAAY too many Pringles and a fridge that is still too packed by the last day. We’re slowly learning realistic quantities of food to bring, but at least we know we’ll be well fed. We are also budget and time conscious. So we share meal prep (each taking charge of one) and rarely go out because it’s expensive and takes away valuable writing time. Go with what works for you, but whether you go Skip the Dishes, potluck, or venture out for meals, plan it ahead of time, so you’re all on board.
  2. Bring your comfies. This means moccasins for me, fuzzy slippers for Sharon, an electric blanket for Beckie, and Prosecco for Maria – for that girl, comfort is defined by a glass of the bubbly in her hands, no matter the hour! Ego is left at the door for RW and you’ll find no fashion shows at our retreats.
  3. Have a kick off and write down your goals. We like starting our retreats by having an activity to shift our minds into creative mode. Keep it simple and consider a writing exercise or guided meditation, or something to open your mind and help release fears and blockages. We also always discuss and write down our goals for the weekend. It forces us to focus in and remember this isn’t just a girls’ weekend away. We’ve got work to do and we’re here to help each other get there. Writing it down makes us accountable to each other.
  4. Have your materials ready.  Bring your favourite pen, lap desks, sticky notes, markers, cue cards, extension cords, earphones, whatever you need to be productive. For us, these are precious weekends, so we don’t want to waste them not having what we need to get busy.FullSizeR001(1)
  5. Don’t over plan or over schedule. We’ve sometimes done this in the past: had a strict agenda detailing every hour, invited a yoga instructor to run a class for us, booked a few wine tours. We’ve relaxed a lot over the years and try and let each retreat flow as it needs to, which leads me to…
  6. Respect each other’s needs and be honest. Everyone’s creative process is different, and as a group you need to both recognize that and respect it. At the same time, each person needs to feel safe to be honest with what that means for them. The writing is about you in the end. So speak up for what you need, and give space to others at the same time. As an example, this past retreat, I felt in my zone and was happy in my pajamas indoors all day. Sharon needed to get herself outside and walking. We know we don’t have to do everything as a group. We are our own guides in our work and we appreciate that in each other.
  7. Be kind to yourself. The purpose of a retreat is to give you time and space for your writing project. Give yourself the freedom to explore. Let go of judgment. Don’t worry if you’re “doing it right,” nor compare what you’re doing with the others in the group. They’re slogging it out in their own way. And if you don’t meet your goal at the end, consider that maybe you set the wrong goal, or if you’re frustrated, figure out if you spent your time the way you wanted to, or were more focused on mixing drinks for everyone, procrastinating. Either way, take stock and learn from it. It’s all good.
  8. Do a postmortem. We’ve gotten better at our retreats because just before we leave, we go for coffee and do a final check in. Did we like where we stayed? Was the space good? Did we like our kick-off meeting exercise? What do we need to bring next time that we forgot? Was the price right and the time of year good? Do we want to have a more formal agenda? Take notes and learn each time how your group ticks.

As I reflect back on our last retreat, I guess the last lesson is: Be ready for anything. I mean anything. Because just when you think you’ve gotten used to being down from the usual four to three because one of you is across the country, that fourth girl just might shock the shit out of you and show up at your doorstep!

You just never know what a retreat will bring. Have fun and happy writing!FullSizeR

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6 Ways to Quiet Your Inner Asshole

kristina-flour-BcjdbyKWquw-unsplashYou know who I’m talking about. I know you do. I call mine Anders. He’s a big, bulky, piece of shit of a guy who’s actually sly and sneaky despite his size. He knows me well—oh so well—and can spot the tiniest crack in my psyche and bust it wide open with a single punch: “You’re not that good. Why bother?”

He’s an asshole.

And when I talk to other writers who are frustrated and feeling defeated, I know their inner Anders’ are showing off their bulging biceps. Natalie Goldberg, in Writing Down the Bones, calls this your “monkey mind.” (Clearly, I haven’t done the Zen acceptance work she has to be as composed about it.) It’s that voice that never shuts up and makes up excuses why you shouldn’t or can’t write: Too untalented. Too unworthy. Too busy. Too poor. Too tired. (Feel free to add your own to this endless list.)

Goldberg continues to say that the monkey mind will never leave. It stays with her even with all her success as an author. It is persistent, determined, smart, and doesn’t need any sleep.

On the other side for me is Ariadne. She is my goddess who barely has a form because of her brilliant light. I can make out hazel eyes like the sea, scarlet lips, and tresses of golden locks that flutter over a silky whiteness that flows into eternity. She sings when I write – just because I’m writing. She asks nothing more of me.

Elizabeth Gilbert says all she promised the universe is that she will write. She never promised she’d be good. That’s how I feel with Ariadne. She doesn’t wonder why my character just asked for soup. She simply tingles with anticipation when I open my notebook and pick up my Bic Round Stic pen. (Yeah, I don’t need anything too fancy.)

For Ariadne, the exploration writing allows is what matters.  Anders, on the other hand, gets all caught up in wanting to know where it’s all going and makes me second guess every word I put down.

So, how do you quiet a guy like that? While you’ll never shut him up completely, here are six ideas:

  1. Shut up and write. (This is Goldberg’s mantra. And really, all six of these could be this one.) When you write anyway despite his resistance, you make him weaker.
  2. Create structure. (This is another steal from Goldberg.) Make an appointment with yourself to write and keep it like you would any other meeting. He’ll always try to throw you off and send you a grocery list or a great Old Navy sale reminder.
  3. Read your favourite book that gives you chills and made you want to be a writer in the first place. It drives Anders nuts when I pick up Shakespeare.
  4. Talk to a close friend who inspires you and reminds you who you are. Anders hates the Restless Writers!
  5. Go for a walk and be present with the earth you are walking on, the maple trees on your way, the pansies you pass. Take notes as you walk to notice what is extraordinary around you. That’s our gift as writers and Anders gets bored pretty quickly.
  6. Remind yourself you’re an artist and create. “Dependence on the creator within is really freedom from all other dependencies.” – Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way. Anders’ mission is to make me completely dependent on him.

Even now, he is telling me, “You’re a fake. There’s nothing original here. You just took all this from other authors.”

Well, Goldberg, Gilbert and Cameron wrote their books to inspire other writers and they have inspired me. That is my truth today.

Anders can have his tantrum. He’s an asshole anyway.

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My writing albatross

Why can’t I write this blog post? It’s been pressing on my shoulders for three weeks now. Coleridge’s damn albatross. The emails from my fellow Restless Writers were initially gentle reminders, but have now become electrified prods like I’m a cow to be herded back to my quarters. (OK, they’re not that mean, but I am feeling the pressure.)

Every time I sit down in hopes the “grand inspiration” will come, the screen sits in silence. The keys remain idle. My fingers await their commands.

And alas, when a few words do splatter on the screen they are out of focus, blurry like a…like a…what? The simile alludes me. My muse is clearly on vacation enjoying steamy weather and sunlight, while I freeze in this record cold winter, surrounded by greying snow and the greying sky out my window that reflects the current grey in my brain.

Where is the light in my thoughts? Where is just a spark of an idea? I’m sitting beside a fire for God’s sake! Nothing?

Have I left it too long? Have the distractions of my life stolen my ability to create something new? Perhaps I have starved Calliope for too long and she has found refuge in another writer’s home.

What’s a writer to do when a fog has descended on her creativity? Here are some ideas:

  • Try a writing prompt to start you off and help focus your brain.
  • Write something, anything every day – even if it’s crap – at least you’re writing.
  • Read. Read anything – about writing, a novel, a blog, poetry. Read…a lot.
  • Schedule your writing time and be disciplined to make it happen with no distractions.
  • Take a step back for a moment and set some goals. Maybe it’s time to regroup and figure out what you want to achieve with your writing. Check in to ensure you are heading in the direction you want to be with your writing. Maybe it’s time for a left-hand turn to stir things up.
  • Stop and have a good look at your life recently.  What needs to shift? Where are you out of balance? (This one’s mine. My life’s been spazzy these last months and my writing has suffered because of it.)

Writing takes persistence, perseverance and patience, and each ‘p’ word comes in waves. Sadly my surf board has been stuck behind my snow shovel lately. I know I have to dig it out…once I dig my car out of the driveway. The worst ‘p’ for me is the third one. Damn that patience thing. It’s the new albatross around my neck now that this blog post is done.

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